If getting married will cause you to stray from the path, forgo this sunna. If your marriage is not facilitating your islam, perform the makruh (divorce). If having children will keep you away from Allah, abstain. For nothing is more important then worshipping Allah, this is an obligation to engage in the sunna and bypass the obligatory is a flaw. Everything is a means towards Allah. And if it is not helping you, you should let it go.